Today’s post is focused all around this quote:
I recently had lunch with a friend who is really more of a brother than anything else. He was talking about some stress he was going through and I brought up the quote above (not verbatim but close enough). I basically told him that he needs to surround himself with people that are going to support him and push him towards success. Gather around himself people that will lift him up when down, support his decisions (whether they agree or not, which is very difficult for most people) and even help him out where needed.
I told him that no matter what he has to be himself and not let others (even those that were close friends) bring him down. He can be no other person but himself, because everybody else is already taken! It is also, from the books I have been reading, something that I need to do. There may come a point in our lives that we need to reevaluate those we hang out with and decide if they are worth keeping around. Don’t worry, none of you are currently at risk of being eliminated 😉.
If you want to be depressed all the time then hang out with depressed and negative people. If you want to be broke and unsuccessful then hang out with broke and passionless individuals. If you want to succeed and see your dreams become a reality, then become involved with people who are doing just that. You are who you surround yourself with! Plain and simple. So begin to think about all those that you hang out with the most and analyze how your life has changed, for better or worse and make the conscious decision to either remain friends or choose to spend less time around them. There may even be those that you need to cut ties with altogether, trust me, you will feel so much lighter when those that do nothing but bring you down are sent out to Lian Yu never to return! We don’t need to hoard “friends” to feel good because sometimes there are those that just stink up the place and need to leave.
Then again there are those that we need to keep even closer because their very presence is uplifting and clears away that fog of depression. These are the kinds of friends we need to collect, along with those that push us to dig deep for our goals and dreams. I am thankful and lucky that I have these people in my life who will push me and are very understanding. If you are lacking this caliber of individuals then look for community groups that will push you are places like the Nerd Fitness Rebellion. And post there to get acquire the kings of people that you need to keep you going and who will support your goals and changes in your life!
This is a short and quick post but well worth it, I hope that it encouraged you today or gave you the insight and realization of maybe some things you can change with those you hang out with.
Go out and feel the Burn today Nerds and Nerdettes (haha)!